Our CEO died, now what? No Comments

One of the most dreaded impacts on a company is to experience the death of its leader. The loss creates a complex situation, has tremendous bearing on the employees, clients and stakeholders and will ultimately alter the rhythm of the company. While leaders come and go in companies due to performance or illness…

Loss of a Dream No Comments

Sometimes the life of your dreams is like the elusive butterfly – close but disappears as soon as you are certain the net has gracefully captured it. Whether a situation or lack of personal power causes the loss of a dream, the loss of connection to others, the loss of financial security, emotional stability…

Suggestions to Help You Deal with a Loss of Self No Comments

If life plops a bucket load of misery on you, with fear acting as a mallet to pound you deeper into slippery quicksand, what would you do to survive? Once you sink to the bottom, how would you begin to shimmy out? As far I know, there isn’t an elevator with a “straight to the top” button or a trampoline to sling shot you out of this place, instead, you have to learn to communicate within and determine a plan of action. Try writing a shorthand self- portrait. Think of the pen as a brush stroke…

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Counseling for Ambiguous Loss: One Expert’s Approach No Comments

Ambiguous loss is loss without closure. There is no body to view or bury, no death certificate, no inkling of what happened to your loved one. Uncertainty and worry are part of your days and seep into your being. Though ambiguous loss has many of the same symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), therapists and counselors treat it differently. Counseling hinges on how long you have been suffering and the strength of your support system. It also hinges on family structure…

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A Different Kind of Grief No Comments

This summer, I wrote on my Facebook page, “What once was a lush yard with wooded trees and green lawn, now was a pile of wood chips and dust.” These were words that described a different kind of grief. My husband and I decided we needed to cut down 1-2 trees that died and could cause potential damage to our roof. But, when we called the Tree Surgeon, we didn’t realize we were in for a much bigger surprise. Our expert analyzed all the trees and determined that many of the root systems were tied together. We could cut down those that needed it right now…

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An Excerpt From the Book “With and Without Her” by Dorothy Foltz-Gray No Comments

In 1981, when my identical twin sister, Deane, a psychologist, and I were 32 years old, she was fatally wounded by one of her patients in Lowell, Massachusetts, just outside Boston. Another doctor died at the scene, and two other people were wounded but survived. Deane had that morning given her PHD thesis to a typist. She was going to travel to Knoxville that day to spend ten days with me. I woke up and put a bottle of champagne in the refrigerator, wrapped her present, signed a card addressed to Dr. Deane…

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