The Journey of Grief: Birthdays No Comments

I have always known there is no such thing as “normal” on the grief journey. Everyone responds in their own way and with the intensity that fits their personality. Those who respond with great intensity and tears do not miss their loved one any more than those who seem to be more stoical and show less emotion. Neither does this prove how much they loved the person. It is impossible therefore to structure how we are suppose to feel or respond to any part of the journey. We can list some tendencies that seem…

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Ways to Survive the Grief During the Holidays No Comments

It is extremely hard for those who are yet to encounter a loss to truly appreciate just how devastating and traumatic it is to lose a loved one. They cannot see into your head or your heart to understand the kinds of suffering you are experiencing in your grief. Oftentimes we “pretend” we are okay on these days, that we are just as excited as everyone else, when really we are saddened by the whole affair. So what can you do when the holidays are just around the corner, how can you prepare…

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Getting Through Special Occasions After a Loss No Comments

I will never forget how difficult it was to get through all the special occasions after my husband died. There were just so many “firsts,” whether it was Thanksgiving, Christmas, new babies being born, and yes, Memorial Day. Whatever the occasion was, it was hard. What I learned from that was you just have to do what you need to do to get yourself through it. For example, it had been our tradition to drive 50 miles away to the cemetery where my husband’s family graves were. We did that every single year, rain or shine…

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Surviving the Holidays After a Loss No Comments

When your heart is broken in grief, you’re not sure how you are going to get through the next day, much less the holidays. Holidays should be spent with the ones we love. It’s a time of celebration, of giving to those we care about. So, if your loved one has died, please don’t think I am in any way making light of the hole you must feel in the center of your being. I only wish to offer ways to honor and remember the one who is gone from your life. My brother committed suicide when I was in my mid-twenties (he was thirty-two). His birthday is October 4th, so that was the first…

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