My First Valentine’s Day Alone No Comments

On Valentine’s Day I forced myself out of bed. Staying in bed was not an option. My principal who had given me the lead to my literacy coach position was coming to our school for a visit. I couldn’t let her down. When I arrived at school, students greeted me with hugs and candy hearts that said, “I Love You.” Paper hearts and Valentine bags dangled in every classroom I visited. Memories of red roses, romantic cards and Valentine’s Day dinner at the Rainbow room in New York crashed through my mind. Living in the present was harder than I thought…

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Feeling Upside Down? Holiday Grief Radio Broadcast No Comments

It’s the happiest time of the year, right? When someone’s missing from the picture the holidays can feel lonely and confusing. Maybe you’re worried what people will think if you no-show a traditional event, or break down in the middle of it. You’re not alone! And what do you do with all the generous offers from people wanting to help? Please join me for this special holiday broadcast from WRIX-FM and The Morning Show with Greg and Aly…

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Feel Like Pulling the Covers Over Your Head? No Comments

Are you considering hibernating through the holidays this year? Maybe it was the pink slip at work… or the loss of your home. For you it may have been the death of the marriage you believed would last forever, or the crushing death of someone you love. There’s never a good time for trauma to hit, but the holidays seem to be the worst! The most shocking moment of my life was the late night call about my mom’s death. It was weeks before the holidays. In addition to being a best friend, mom had always been the glue…

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Getting Through the Holidays No Comments

Years ago, when my minister told me the holidays are difficult for a lot of people, I didn’t have a clue what she was talking about. Why on earth would such a joyous time be difficult? That all changed when I was working my way through the sudden loss of husband and both parents. The holidays, I quickly learned, can indeed be difficult. I also learned there are some things you can do to make them a little easier. Here are some of the things that helped me. Nurture yourself every way you can ~ in big ways and little ways, too. What brings a smile to your face? Then do it!…

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Hanging On: Holiday Tips When You’ve Lost Someone You Love No Comments

The music, the smell of gingerbread and shimmering lights usually stir up warm holiday memories, but this year something is missing. Actually someone is missing, and the holiday cheer can magnify the intensity of your loss. If you’re tempted to pull the covers over your head and hibernate through December, you’re not alone. My most difficult journey of grief began with the death of my mom, just weeks before Thanksgiving. Without warning my best friend and #1 fan was gone…

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