Embracing a Paradox No Comments

It seems to me that death is a paradox, for while it appears that life has ended, nothing could be further from the truth. Yes, the body dies, but our spirit does not. In fact, our spirit cannot die, because the spirit is eternal. Since life cannot end, neither do our relationships. In fact, the scope of those relationships can be much greater now that they reach beyond the seen to the unseen. There were so many “firsts” after my husband died, but the one thing that was constant was the sense of his loving presence. It just felt as though he was still here. That came as a complete surprise to me…

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Grief Help: What Religion Can and Cannot Do for You No Comments

The death of four family members in 2007 caused me to examine my religious/spiritual beliefs. I had so many questions. Why did so many family members die? Why did my daughter die now? Would I survive such tragedy? The answers to these questions didn’t come quickly; rather, they evolved with meditation, prayer and time. I belong to a liberal religious community and members rallied to help. My husband and I met with our minister several times. She was extremely kind and helpful and we knew the church…

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Your Beliefs Will Carry You Through No Comments

The day that changed the lives of my family started with my four-year-old granddaughter, Brittany, sneaking in the front door with two pink roses hiding behind her back. When a precious little hand reaches towards you holding something so dear, the warmth and tenderness you feel have no words. Little did we know what effect a pink rose would have on the rest of our lives. The next morning was supposed to be the first day at her new school, but her life changed over night. By morning, she was burning up with fever. My daughter took her to the doctor’s…

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Finding Your Light in the Midst of Grief No Comments

An old Gospel hymn, “This Little Light of Mine,” talks about sharing your personal light. In the midst of grief, however, darkness may be all you see. You can’t envision a future or figure out how to get there. Worse, you may think your light has gone out forever. It hasn’t. Your light — the talents, training, and experience you possess — is still within you. These gifts have not disappeared, but are fallow, waiting to grow again. How can you rekindle your light and share it? Connecting with a spiritual community is a good place…

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Grief Healing and the Power of Afterlife Signs 2 Comments

Since 1998, during my grief support work, I have observed time and again the remarkable healing affects that take place when the bereaved receive a personal afterlife sign from their departed loved ones. Many who were deeply grieving and in a very dark place would later confide in me that the only reason they did not follow through on their thoughts of suicide was because they had received an afterlife sign. Some of these “signs” may be in the form of: happy and vivid dreams where you get to see…

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