Change Can Be Life-Giving No Comments

In my younger days I thought I could control change. I learned, and not quickly I would add, that no one can control or stop change anymore than one can hold back the tides or halt the autumn leaves transforming from green to gold. This brings me to today’s topic of change and how to understand it, accept its daily invitation and be grateful for the life-giving aspects of it. First, change is inevitable. Think of those individuals you know who, despite painful adversity, have been able to go on even after their world…

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Finding Our Answers No Comments

Moments of crisis have a way of bringing our focus into stark relief. They get our attention. They force us to plumb our spiritual depths. They put on the brakes and make us look at what life is really all about. Perhaps it is not this way for everyone, but that is how it has been for me. My “spiritual life” and my “working life” have always walked hand in hand. Even though there were times when one was more in the forefront than the other, they have always been like two sides of a coin, but my husband’s sudden passing…

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Mother Taught Son How to Grieve With Dignity No Comments

My mother, Sadie B. Roberts, died on March 11, 1994 at the age of 77, due to complications arising from a massive bacterial infection. She died less than 24 hours after being admitted to the hospital. Her death left a tremendous void in my life. My mother raised me as a single parent, since I was five years old. My father left us and was never heard from again. I am also an only child, so my mother was all that I had growing up. When she died, I found myself at 38 years of age, an orphan, even though I was married…

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The Questions of Grief: What Do We Do with Anger? No Comments

The best help we can receive comes from those who are walking the same pathways and dealing with the same feelings we are experiencing. I have permission to share the story of a very caring woman. She says it better than I can and perhaps the response I tried to give will be helpful as well. She wrote a comment on one of the bogs: I too have just finished book 4. I still feel overwhelmed and depressed. Outwardly no one would know that, but I am , I look at my husbands pictures…

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The Role of Faith: It Isn’t Just Me No Comments

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to email a response to my post called “Is It Just Me?” I tried to be as honest as possible in sharing questions and feelings about the role of faith during the grieving process. I have gotten honesty in return. It will take a few posts to cover all of the aspects that have been uncovered in this experience. New questions have been asked. Requests for posts on such subjects as prayer, faith, and the after life have been registered. I am going to be busy but boy is it fun…

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The Role of Faith: So Far It Is Just Me No Comments

Last week I wrote about some of the feelings I was having especially in the area of faith and ask for comments tying to see if what I was feeling was unique to me or if others felt the same way. So far I am still feeling like the odd duck. Some have emailed and I hope a lot more will do so soon. So far no one has taken issue with what I had to say but no one has said they felt the same way. One person did say that she grew tired of folks saying they were praying for her. She said that did not help…

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Why Ask Questions About Your Grief Journey? No Comments

I recently had the honor of being the opening keynote speaker for this year’s national gathering of the Bereaved Parents of the USA. I spoke about the evolution of my grief and observations and lessons learned during the past eight-plus years that have helped me adjust to the reality of life without the physical presence of my daughter Jeannine. One of the things that I addressed was my need to ask “what if,” “could have,” “should have,” and “why” questions throughout my early grief…

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The Role of Faith: Is It Just Me? No Comments

I am a religious person. I currently lead worship each Sunday for a small house church and have been a minister for well over fifty years, but somehow the constant barrage of religious piety surrounding the death of my wife has been a turn off at best and sometimes made me angry. If everyone who says they are praying for me actually do so, God is going to have His hands full. Why do I think that is just something they say because they do not know any other way to close a conversation or a letter?..

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The Role of Faith: Where Is She? No Comments

They say fools rush in where angles fear to tread, and I have done just that most of my life with mixed results. Here I go again. One of the reasons I give my email on this site and in other media as well is to give me fresh insight and to find out what the real questions are on the minds of folks in grief. Most of what I know about grief I know from listening to the stories of folks in the throws of the journey. One of the bottom line questions I hear over and over concerns what happens when we die? Last week a wonderful woman…

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Being Restored From the Inside Out No Comments

What do you do when you get really weary – I mean “bone weary”? Sometimes I experience that kind of weariness and I find it a difficult thing to talk about … let alone to write about. It is a weariness that requires more than a good night’s sleep but rather calls for renewal and restoration. When life gets incredibly heavy and you feel depleted, there are, of course, a variety of ways to fill up an empty bucket. However, if the filling does not include some means of internal filling, the bucket will be “leaky!”. Psalm 23 is a favorite of many, used often when planning a funeral…

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