Suicide: Some Understanding Is Certain to Initiate and Develop Empathy No Comments

“Suicide is so selfish.” “If he loved you so much why did he hurt you this way?” “Pray for your son so he can get out of purgatory.” “There will always be something unacceptable about the freely-chosen death of a loved one.” “Why did he do it?” “Did he leave a suicide note?” “He took the easy way out.” “Did you…

Thinking – Going Beyond No Comments

We all use our minds to try to understand why our children died. I am no different; when our son Keith died, I continued to ask that endless question—Why? Throughout my pursuit for answers, my niece Juli and her son Cody helped me realize that maybe I was not looking at all possibilities—just maybe I would have…

The Isolation of Grief No Comments

Now, I’ve never been a stranger to the isolation that comes from feeling like you just don’t fit into your surroundings. But I’ve never felt as isolated in my whole life as I have after the death of my daughter. As a child, I was a shy, introverted person and often felt different than the people around me. At the time, I never really knew why. While I didn’t like the feeling of isolation, I didn’t understand what caused it so it just became a fact of life. Over the years my shyness has lessened, but I still prefer…

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Never the Same Again – the Loss of My Daughter No Comments

Life does not progress in a predictable or orderly fashion. We are confronted with a series of challenges that present us with two choices: 1) To do nothing and stagnate emotionally and spiritually; 2) to allow those challenges to transform us and help us find meaning and enlightenment. This is the story about the loss of my daughter, Jeannine. I remember recently looking at a picture of my late mother and me, which was taken about thirty years ago at my wedding reception…

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