Melinda Lyons

Melinda Richarz Lyons earned a B.A. from the University of North Texas and has been a freelance writer for over forty years. Her articles have appeared in many publications, including Cats Magazine, True West, Nashville Parent, Frontier Times, Reminisce, Kids, Chicken Soup for the Soul: True Love, Cincinnati Family Magazine, The Tennessean and Chicken Soup for the Soul: Grandmothers.

An award winning songwriter, Ms. Lyons’ work has been recorded by several Western artists. She is the author of three books, Women Only Over Fifty, Murder at the Oaklands Mansion and Crossing the Minefield, which garnered a Royal Palm Literary Award. Crossing the Minefield has also been incorporated into bereavement programs across the country and is featured on many grief websites.

Ms. Lyons currently serves as Vice President of the Friends of the Tyler Public Library, where she also volunteers.

Why Do I Feel Worse Now Than I Did Right After My Loss? No Comments

Grief counseling was invaluable to me after I lost my husband, Sid. He was only fifty six and died very suddenly. There were so many feelings during the grief process that seemed to come out of nowhere. Of course it didn’t make my loss less painful, but just having my feelings validated seemed to help a tiny bit. In our group session one night, our counselor explained the difference between a sudden loss versus an anticipated loss. Imagine that you are standing on a beach…

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I’m Not a Couple Anymore No Comments

On my journey through grief, I ran into so many unexpected things. It is overwhelming enough to deal with the sadness you expect after the loss of a loved one, but I think it is even harder to deal with the many unexpected aspects of grief. One of the things that took me by surprise after the death of my husband was the loss of my couple friends. Perhaps loss is not the right word—they were still there. But as time went on, they started to drift away. That was so painful for me, but yet, as my grief counselor said, it was normal. As she bluntly put it, “You are not a couple anymore.”…

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Fighting the Bitterness: Loss of a Spouse No Comments

After the loss of a spouse, you face so many emotional challenges. For me one of the most difficult was fighting the bitterness I felt after my husband suddenly died. After the shock wore off, and I plummeted into a deep depression, I found myself in the anger stage. I would obsess over questions like “Why did my husband have to die?” “Why did this happen to me?” Sid’s death planted some seeds of bitterness that began to sprout. I started to resent other people’s happiness as I only focused on what I…

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