Mary Jane Hurley Brant

Mary Jane Hurley Brant is a Grief Therapist with a specialty in loss of a child. She is certified as a Group Psychotherapist and a Certified Leader of the Simple Abundance Principles and Peace and Plenty Workshops. For 33 years she has worked as a Human Relations Counselor concentrating in Jungian studies and depth psychology.

Psychotherapy is a sacred and important time and Mary Jane Hurley Brant feels privileged to guide couples and clients in the process. The therapeutic alliance she establishes with others helps validate their personal experience and manage the life they have been given or to make changes where they can. She has a sub-specialty in working with individuals who suffer with Multiple Sclerosis.

Mary Jane Hurley Brant's counseling is spiritually driven and clinically sound. She is also an artist and a writer who believes we are all fellow travelers on a journey to discover our gifts and passions and to use them creatively, productively and meaningfully.

In October, 2008, Mary Jane Hurley Brant was published by Simple Abundance Press, Sarah Ban Breathnach, Publisher. The book is called When Every Day Matters: A Mother’s Memoir on Love, Loss and Life. Sarah believes the book's message of hope and authenticity will make it the classic book on grief and hope after loss. In January, 2009, foreign rights were contracted with St. Pauls and Better Yourself Books in Mumbai, India, English version. The book’s distribution is in India, Sri Lanka, The Philippines, Malaysia and Africa.

Grief Poems by Mary Jane Hurley Brant No Comments

My grief’s a whirling ceiling fan It whips me about again and again. chop chop whoosh whoosh My soul a tortured tear-stained book. This splintered old boat on an angry sea It rocks; it shouts you’ll never sink me. slosh slosh splash splash My soul a prayerful history. A blossoming limb torn from our family tree…

Change Can Be Life-Giving No Comments

In my younger days I thought I could control change. I learned, and not quickly I would add, that no one can control or stop change anymore than one can hold back the tides or halt the autumn leaves transforming from green to gold. This brings me to today’s topic of change and how to understand it, accept its daily invitation and be grateful for the life-giving aspects of it. First, change is inevitable. Think of those individuals you know who, despite painful adversity, have been able to go on even after their world…

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Grief Has its Own Timetable No Comments

After the death of someone we love our grief experience and overall healing has everything to do with our relationship to the deceased, the intensity and depth of the love we felt for them and our degree of faith in a hereafter. In the immediate aftermath of a person’s death, it’s hard to breathe and everything hurts. We feel shattered, bewildered and frightened. Sometimes, however, grief shows us its own timetable and can be delayed or complicated. I experienced a long delay in time sequence when my father died. I was thirteen years old; it was the springtime of my life…

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How to Comfort a Friend Who is Grieving No Comments

No one wants to watch a friend suffering with grief, that natural emotional response to loss. It’s a painful emotion to observe in anyone but even more so when it’s our friend. No one wants to see a friend who is sad. It’s instinctual to want to ease their pain and sorrow and offer them comfort. Sometimes, because we cannot change the fact that someone has died, we feel inadequate; we feel we can’t be helpful. While it’s true we cannot bring back the deceased person to our grieving friend…

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Happy Mother’s Day to Every “Good-Enough Mother” No Comments

For many of us, Mother’s Day stirs something deeply loving. For others, ambivalent feelings abide. You see, after thirty-three years in the counseling field and drying the tears off many faces, I can accurately say that not every woman feels she had, was or is the “good-enough mother.” So, exactly what is the “good-enough mother”? English pediatrician, Donald Winnicott, M.D. – an influential object-relations psychoanalyst – believed this type of mother was a different kind of mom because she didn’t hold perfectionism as her model…

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What it Means to Grieve a Loss No Comments

When you open yourself up to love, you open yourself up to loss. When you suffer a loss, you will experience the painful emotion we call grief. It’s a natural response to loss. Yet, to the person going through this afflictive emotion, the experience feels overwhelming. I would like to help you understand that going through it means it is a process not an event and, depending on the personal connection you have to the loss, it is very individual. And yet, the grieving process itself is universal: we feel sad when we experience loss. Because we will all suffer loss as part our life’s journey…

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