Mary Bart

Mary Bart is the Chair of Caregiving Matters, a registered charity that offers education and support to family caregivers. She was her parents’ principal caregiver for ten years and first-hand experience in helping aging parents, dealing with family dynamics, protecting parents from elder abuse and working with public and private organizations.

Dear Mary: Does This Seem Cruel to You? No Comments

Dear Mary, I was talking with my brother who lives close to my Dad’s seniors’ residence. I live 2,500 miles away and miss being there. David was telling me about how Dad’s hearing aids went missing a couple of months ago. Since then, my brother bought him new ones, but only lets my Dad wear them when he goes to visit him. David visits my Dad once a week. When he arrives he lets my Dad use the hearing aids. When David leaves, he takes them with him…

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Dear Mary: My Brother Did Not Tell Me No Comments

Dear Mary, Mom lives in a senior’s building and recently needed emergency surgery. Without the surgery she would have died. My brother and I have not spoken in years. He has POA for her. My brother did not bother to tell me about how sick Mom was or that surgery even happened. I only learned about all of this from my aunt. How can I get my brother to tell me when things like this happen? Chris…

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Dear Mary: I Miss My Dad No Comments

Dear Mary, My Mother has had a stroke and is in a nursing home, my Dad lives with us and is starting to have memory issues. My husband and kids don’t understand that I am stressed, and my boss is getting tired of me taking time off to take my Dad to his medical appointments. I feel guilty about everything! Sandy…

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Dear Mary: Dealing With Guilt No Comments

Dear Mary, My Mother has had a stroke and is in a nursing home, my Dad lives with us and is starting to have memory issues. My husband and kids don’t understand that I am stressed, and my boss is getting tired of me taking time off to take my Dad to his medical appointments. I feel guilty about everything! Sandy…

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