Dr. John D. Canine

Dr. John D. Canine, Ed.D., Ph.D. is a noted author, professional speaker, educator and leading expert on grief and bereavement. He is currently the CEO of Maximum Living Consultants, Inc. and he oversees bereavement aftercare services in ten states. Maximum Living provides traditional counseling services as well as telephone and online counseling. Facilitated by a Licensed Counselor, telephone and online counseling is available for a single person or can be arranged for multiple persons as well.

Dr. John D. Canine also has life experiences as a minister, psychotherapist and is a former member of the American Philosophical Association. He has 2 Masters Degrees and 2 Doctoral Degrees; however, as he states, “I am still learning.” His greatest reward is “becoming a companion in an individuals grief and assisting them through grief education.”

Dr. John D. Canine is a member of the Your Tribute Advisory Council. He is a regular contributor of grief and funeral-related articles for YourTribute.com and provides guidance to the Your Tribute management team.

Past Accomplishments:

Dr. John D. Canine is a former All-American Basketball player (1970) for Ohio University. In 1991 he was inducted into the Ohio University Hall of Fame. He has served as the staff counselor for the Detroit Tigers and Detroit Lions professional sports teams.

Dr. John D. Canine has worked as an adjunct professor and an associate member of the graduate faculty at Wayne State University in the College of Pharmacy and Health Sciences, Department of Mortuary Science. Dr. Canine has published numerous articles and books on topics related to grief. He is a frequent speaker at the National Funeral Directors Association annual conference.

Author of:

The Challenge of Living

1983, Ball Publishers

I Can I Will

1990, Ball Publishers

The Psychosocial Aspects of Death and Dying

1996, by McGraw-Hill (Appleton-Lange Division)

What Am I Going To Do With Myself When I Die?

1999 by McGraw-Hill (Appleton-Lange Division)

The Value of a Cemetery No Comments

All of our grief emotions need to be objectified.  By that, I mean feelings need to be directed toward and locked in to the appropriate person, place, or thing.  When I am sad, what is the object of my sadness?  When I am angry, what has caused my anger?  When I am happy, what has made me happy?  Identifying the object of a particular feeling is a characteristic of a healthy mind. Now, the cemetery is a place where a lot of grief feelings can be identified along with the object – most of the time the object will be the buried loved one.  When I go to the cemetery and visit my Dad’s gravesite, I am happy as I remember all the good times we had.  I am also sad because I miss him.  Sometimes I have felt guilty about a few of those insignificant conflicts we had.  All of these emotions are directed toward my father and the gravesite.  That’s why we say a trip to the cemetery is a ritual.  It means we remember the loved one and the relationship we had with the person who is now dead.  We take the time to think about the past, perhaps talk to the loved one about what is happening in the present, then move on with our lives again. I remember reading about a family who went to the cemetery together and read a letter they had composed to their dad.  The letter updated him on what had happened in the past year.  It also included declarations of how much the family missed him.  The ritual concluded with one of the daughters doing a cartwheel on her father’s grave.  Her father had always loved watching her do cartwheels, and she did one for him on this day of remembrance.  Her ability to do the cartwheel was also a way for her and her family to let their dad know that they were still able to feel joy in their lives.  The cemetery is a very valuable place in the life of someone working through grief. Keep in mind cemetery arrangements should be an item on the funeral contract.  Not only is it a funeral expense, but it also has a great impact on the survivors’ future emotional stability.  (For instance, if the cemetery is not well maintained, survivors may feel guilty that they did not provide the “best” for their loved one.)  The cemetery arrangements should meet state requirements for burial, religious expectations, the individual’s vault and monument requests, the desire for perpetual care, and the need for future burial plots.  The funeral firm will have knowledge about all your burial options and the location of the cemetery that will best meet your need. Updated: