Gloria Lintermans

Gloria Lintermans is a former syndicated newspaper columnist, currently a freelance writer and author. She has also hosted her own cable TV show and radio program. She is the author of The Newly Divorced Book of Protocol (Barricade Books, NY, 1995) and Retro Chic (Really Great Books, LA, 2002) and The Secrets to Stepfamily Success; Revolutionary Tool to Create a Blended Family of Support and Respect (2010).

Authors Gloria Lintermans and Marilyn Stolzman, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. have come together to create THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Love and Laughter and THE HEALING POWER OF LOVE: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love after earning their bereavement accreditations and re-loving experience worlds apart-Dr. Stolzman by way of her professional training and work as a professional counselor specializing in bereavement and the Director of H.O.P.E. Unit Foundation for Bereavement, Loss and Transition, a non-profit organization sponsoring unique bereavement support groups for hundreds of people in Southern Calfiornia, and Lintermans, who has mourned, healed and recovered after the death of her husband. Together they explore and reveal the intricacies to create new, loving relationships following the loss of a spouse.

LOSS AND LOVE: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love No Comments

The unimaginable has happened and you are a widow or widower. Mourning your loss has been the focus of your life for the past year or two. Finally, as you begin to surface from your profound grief, with a deep breath and lot or a little trepidation you find yourself falling in love again. Is this new relationship fraught with landmines? You bet! Here are important stepping stones to help keep you afloat along the way, Do’s and Don’ts as it were for widows/widowers…

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When Your Widowed Parent Re-Marries…An Adult Child’s Perspective No Comments

Chances are that you grew up in a two-parent family, a mom and a dad. Went to a local school, away to college, married, had children of your own. And then, tragedy struck and your mother passed away, leaving your father a widower. He has mourned his loss and, in time, while still embracing the memories of your mother, met someone new and fallen in love, ready once again to enjoy a full life, perhaps to even re-marry, and you find yourself exchanging parenting roles as you concerns are not unlike that of your parents…

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Helpful Do’s & Don’ts for the Widow/Widower Embracing New Love No Comments

Is it possible to mourn the loss of a beloved spouse and, while still grieving, to not only meet someone special, but fall in love and begin to build a new relationship that includes a commitment to sharing your lives? Can we overlap our loving and our grieving? The answer is a profound: YES! But, to smooth the path, keep these helpful Do’s and Don’ts in mind: Do allow yourself the joy of healing and moving on. Do allow yourself to feel good when this happens. Don’t feel guilty. You have been respectful, loving…

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LOSS: Healing After the Loss of a Spouse No Comments

Loss is a fact of life. Yet, following loss, their needs to be a healthy healing, a healing that allows life not only to simply continue, but with joy and determination. What are the elements that make up healing? Whether suffering from a divorce, loss of a child, loss of a parent or loss of a spouse, we go through certain stages and reactions. Not only is it different for each person, it is different with each loss. Based on the nature of the relationship, we must take into consideration the history we had with that person…

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LOSS AND LOVE: When the Heart Heals… A Widow’s Story No Comments

At this point, widowed for about 18 months, I met Hal the night I attended my last “bereavement support group” meeting. I was instantly attracted to his energy. We seemed to have a lot in common, both professionally and emotionally. I gave him my business card with the knowing feeling that he would call, but I had no idea if it would be in a week or a year. I hold a life’s philosophy that things happen when they should. Hal called about six months later and we had dinner together everything moved very quickly…

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LOSS: The Time Sequences of Grief…Moving Through Loss No Comments

The loss of a spouse is one of the most difficult loses we experience as your entire day-to-day life is turned upside-down. The grieving process following this loss is divided into five time sequences of grief. One to four months would be called SHOCK, five to eight months of mourning is DENIAL, nine to twelve months is ANGER, thirteen to seventeen months is DEPRESSION, eighteen to twenty four months is INTEGRATION, ADJUSTMENT and TRANSITION. While everyone experiences grief and mourning…

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