Doug Manning

My work in grief began when a couple from the church where I was the pastor lost a young daughter from a simple case of the croup. The mother was distraught and crying in the hospital room. The doctor and her husband were trying to calm her when she looked up and said, “Don’t take my grief away from me. I deserve it and I am going to have it.” I found that to be one of the most profound statements about what people in grief need and this became the title of one of my first books and started me on the road to my second career.

My years of counseling as a pastor put me in many situations where people were grieving so I started some of the first bereavement support groups and spent a great deal of time analyzing and trying to understand what processes are involved in a healthy grief journey. I did a lot of listening and learning.

Another book, When Love Gets Tough: The Nursing Home Decision, was born from experiences being a care giver for my parents. I tried to fill a communication gap between elderly parents and their children to help them make a decision that was right for their family.

For the last twenty-five years I have devoted all of my time and effort to these two vital areas that we all have faced or will face in our lives. I have traveled all over the United States, Canada, Australia and New Zealand to speak and listen to folks. I began my company, In-Sight Books, Inc., in order to publish my books on grief and elder care and am delighted now that my company is able to provide this web site as a place where people can come and share and learn from each other.

Continuing The Journey of Grief No Comments

In an earlier blog titled The Journey Of Grief I described grief as a journey from having your loved one right in front of your face, to their presence being more in the heart and in memories. The woman who first explained this analogy to me said her daughter seemed to sit on her shoulder and live in her heart…

Reconstruction: The First Year No Comments

Five days from today will mark the first year since my wife died. The actual date this year is on Sunday, but since the date last year was on Saturday and she died early in the morning, just after midnight, to me, the year ends as I relive that horrible Friday night. I have been reliving the week day by day not…

The Needs of Grief: Safety No Comments

If you boil down everything all of us authors have written about grieving, it boils down to one word–PERMISSION. The key to a successful grief journey is finding permission to grieve. The best thing to do with our grief is to grieve, but finding permission from ourselves and from others is not an easy thing to…

The Journey of Grief No Comments

There are no experts on grief, and that includes me. As I often say in these blogs, “Grief is as unique as a finger print,” so no one can be an expert about any grief other than their own. Most of what I know about grief comes from the stories people tell about their unique journey. I am here to just report on the…