Diane Dettmann

Diane Dettmann’s experience as a literacy staff developer and trainer in the St. Paul Public Schools provided her with skills as a presenter, instructor and writer. She’s pleased that Twenty-Eight Snow Angels was awarded Runner-Up in the 2013 “Beach Book Festival Awards” autobiography category. Diane is a contributing author for the national Women’s Voices for Change, an online news and information website based in New York, NY, for Open to Hope, a grief foundation in Palo Alto, CA and also for Your Tribute an organization that offers grief support. Diane is also the co-author of Miriam Daughter of Finnish Immigrants.

Starting Over After the Loss of a Husband No Comments

During the first few years after my husband John’s sudden death, I pushed myself to keep going. In the process, I eventually burned out and slipped deeper into grief. With the stress of a new job and trying to keep up with the daily responsibilities of home ownership, I had little energy left at the end of the day…

Decisions No Comments

After my fifty-four year old husband died suddenly in 2000, I tried to handle all the responsibilities the two of us shared over the twenty-eight years of marriage. John having been a financial officer for a major insurance company handled the finances while I dealt with the miscellaneous tasks related to maintaining…

My First Valentine’s Day Alone No Comments

On Valentine’s Day I forced myself out of bed. Staying in bed was not an option. My principal who had given me the lead to my literacy coach position was coming to our school for a visit. I couldn’t let her down. When I arrived at school, students greeted me with hugs and candy hearts that said, “I Love You.” Paper hearts and Valentine bags dangled in every classroom I visited. Memories of red roses, romantic cards and Valentine’s Day dinner at the Rainbow room in New York crashed through my mind. Living in the present was harder than I thought…

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The Funeral: An Excerpt From the Book “Twenty-Eight Snow Angels” by Diane Dettmann No Comments

Just hours after my loving husband’s sudden death on June 30, 2000, my family and I gathered around a table in a local mortuary to plan my fifty-four year old husband’s funeral. Confused and filled with emptiness, I struggled to make the hardest decisions of my life. After the funeral, as the months crawled by, I realized the funeral was only the beginning of my long journey through grief and back into life. The following excerpt is from my book, Twenty-Eight Snow Angels…

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Cherishing Memories No Comments

Finding my loving, fifty-four year old husband without breath lying in our bed—a bed we shared for twenty-eight years—shattered my life into tiny pieces like a jig saw puzzle scattered on the floor. During the tumbling pain of the first year without him, I never thought I’d live to see the July sweet corn tassels waving in the summer breeze. Several years later, watching the cornrows fly by the car window as I drove to church one Sunday, the thought that I was still alive and walking on this earth amazed me. His July funeral had passed over me like a distant fog…

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