Carol Loehr

Carol Loehr is the author of My Uncle Keith Died, which addresses children’s questions about suicide and depression. Carol’s only son, Keith Loehr, died at the age of 29 by suicide in 1999. She created and continues to maintain www.TheGiftofKeith.org, a website to help comfort and educate survivors of suicide, as well as clergy, health care professionals, and counselors. Carol has been an elementary and special-education teacher. She also works with The Compassionate Friends, a worldwide organization for supporting bereaved families following the death of a child.

Suicide: Some Understanding Is Certain to Initiate and Develop Empathy No Comments

“Suicide is so selfish.” “If he loved you so much why did he hurt you this way?” “Pray for your son so he can get out of purgatory.” “There will always be something unacceptable about the freely-chosen death of a loved one.” “Why did he do it?” “Did he leave a suicide note?” “He took the easy way out.” “Did you…

Thinking – Going Beyond No Comments

We all use our minds to try to understand why our children died. I am no different; when our son Keith died, I continued to ask that endless question—Why? Throughout my pursuit for answers, my niece Juli and her son Cody helped me realize that maybe I was not looking at all possibilities—just maybe I would have…

Not A Matter of Choice No Comments

Our son Keith was 29 years old when he decided to end his life. Keith’s death was a suicide. Suicide is a frightening word and it is not only ignorance but fear and stigma that keep people from understanding why someone would take their life. In a way it is easier to think that a person made a “choice”, freeing us from knowing the truth. The word , “choice”, continues to perpetuate the stigma of suicide. The definition of “choice” is “the freedom in choosing, both in the way one chooses and in the number of possibilities from which to choose.”…

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